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Please be mindful that this article is written for women who are already in a committed relationship! As a woman, I have found that the task of cheering my man up and comforting him has proven to be very difficult at times.
Not only that, but when I think he seems encumbered or stressed and upset; he may not actually be looking for relief from this state he is in. Instead, he may not want to change the state he is in, unlike how a woman might by talking about it, being listened to, etc. Like most women, if my girlfriends are upset, I naturally ask something along the lines of:. But, when dealing with men, asking these questions is not always the best approach. Your task really is to give the gift of your presence and perhaps also your feminine energy. It is counterintuitive, but if your man is masculine and he is having financial troubles for example, it is not often that the right solution is for you to offer your financial help.
Especially if he is a high value masculine manhe may want less of your solutions and more of other types of feminine gifts. But, giving your feminine energy is a hard thing to do as well. Feminine women care about everything. I would often take his mood as a of lack of affection or love for ME. I would think that it was about me. I would think. As I have come to realise; it was never any of these things. He has never judged me, and he was never cold.
Just serious and focused. I know that in my heart of hearts. As a woman, you will know what I mean when I say that we tend to close up and get uptight and scared when our man seems to go away or get caught up for days on some problem that he needs to fix. The majority of men are never judging us, women, as much as we think they are if at all. Perhaps your man has a demanding career that requires he work outside of traditional working hours. Perhaps he just often seems to be dealing with this or that dilemma.
Perhaps he is lacking sleep or rest. Of course, most of us have been taught to just approach the problem with a solution. To give advice. And no masculine man wants his woman to approach him with a bunch of instructions. Rest assured, there will be a time for this.
And, when it arises — when he asks for your input, always come from a loving place. Every man is different.Shenseea - Good Comfort (Official Music Video)
I recommend that you take the time to truly understand him and his needs first. There are two typical scenarios that you will need to be aware of when your man is or seems stressed. You will have to use your own judgment here. Not that there is anything wrong with wanting attention from your man. These are suggestions. Draw him further into your world. This is all about enchantment and luring him into your magical gifts. Nothing else in the world exists other than the both of you as a couple. Do whatever it takes. Hell, just put some music on music that you both like and move your body.
You can also dance naked for added effects Did someone say: vulnerability?! The point of this is to put a great, big smile on his face and enchant him. You see, you always have to try to feel if a particular thing will actually add value to him in a particular moment. Probably not.
But it might be appropriate at other times. What matters most is that you have the right intent: the intent to give or add value. Ready for what? Ready to talk, share or discuss! Just be there. And continue waiting. Even if it takes hours. Patience, sister! Just remember to live it. When you feel what he is feeling, a funny thing happens…you create what is called attunement. Attunement is when you both become one.
I said it. You may be thinking….
If your aim is to give to your man, this option should not surprise you in the least. But I trust you. I trust you to choose what is right in the moment for both of you. I do also urge you to practice good personal judgment. It makes it easier for him to solve his OWN problems, because he is then empty and free.
Keep in mind that if you ask him how he is feeling, you might very well get something like:. Talking about feelings never helps a man solve any problems, it will often not always, but often just detract him from what needs to be done.
What kind of conventional strategies? Things like getting angry — out of your own frustrations. Giving ultimatums, accusing him of not loving you or trusting you anymore. If you give ultimatums, plan for him to not enjoy that experience at the least. And in the worse case scenario, expect him to leave in some way, or pull away. When you give ultimatums, you may just find that you end up living with an emasculated man for the rest of your life. AND be miserable. When considering what you can do to comfort your guy, you need to be peacefully able to offer yourself.
And it can take a lot of patience to figure out how to comfort them. But, the result is worth it. When I say your presence is not required, I mean during the times when your man may seem to be enduring something or may be overwhelmed with something or engrossed in this or that task. In other words, when he is clearly engrossed in a mission.
He may not want or need your thoughts. He may not want or even need you to ask questions or be concerned. It may just get in the way and give him one more distraction. He may not want to talk. He may not want to discuss. But he will want your respect. He will want your love and loyalty. Is your man serious about committing to you? Like a sandwich with his favourite filling, or a steak or kebabs or veggie sticks or a yummy soup.
Just bring him something. Like, obviously not when he is full already. Use your judgment. He may just think it is an annoyance. Help him to refuel and recharge. You are taking care of him. But do it, unqualified. Just bring it, and leave him to his work or thoughts.
Acknowledge his hard work — his desire to achieve a result. This is something women must make a point to appreciate in men. Every woman must appreciate men or her man at a different level. They are unlike us, and that is how it is meant to be. You can check out that course right here. Giving a man sex is one thing which women do thinking it will get them somewhere.
It can, but it depends on the nature of your relationship and on the individual situation. Now, over to you. What do you think of this article? Have you got any quick tips for comforting a man? Anything that would help other damsels? If you want to be supported by a warm community of high value feminine women, then our Facebook Group. Together with her husband D. Great article!! Just be you he is counting on that very thing.
Damn Ladies you have as much of a chance figuring us out as we do you. Hi Renee. I love this article. It reminds me that even with the best intentions, couples can still end up hurt, frustrated, angry, disappointed and confused with one another if they fail to understand their partners. This was during the first two years in our relationship. Renee, Thank you for the unique and helpful article.
I think this article could have saved my most important 7 year relationship of my 20s where he was particularly reserved and stoic and I was creative and very expressive.Man in need of comfort
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